The myth of women as better emotional managers.
There is this conception that women are better than men in managing their emotions.
But indirect observation of life has shown that women are not in any way better than men when it comes to emotional matters. Women may are only better in displaying and enduring their emotions while men are adept in hiding theirs or in most cases men display their emotions through violent means that make it seem like its a logical thing when in the real sense their actions are emotional outburst.
Lets take an example of how bad men and women display their emotions.
Lets take a hypothetical case of Mrs Amaka who is her husbands punching bag,on the side of the woman,Amaka can hide this fact from friends and family then endure this brutality for years even finding reasons for marks which associates may see on her.
Now, her ability to hide her torture and pain,unhappiness and sadness is a wrong emotion decision though for some women,the fact that they don’t show their pain is a mark of strength. On the side of the man,lets take his emotions into the picture,first she offends him,he gets angry (emotion) then he beats her, lets remember that beating her is an immature way to resolve conflict, beating people as a way of life is bad,some people may say spear the rod and spoil the child,that injunction actually means the rod of wisdom,not the rod of beating. The only time spear the rod will be justified is when the same person that uses the rod of beating uses that same rod on himself i. E, if he makes mistake,even if its in the office,let him take a belt of cane to another person and ask them to flog him for failing to do what is expected of him,or if he does not like the idea of his peers beating him,then let him go to a police station and ask the DPO to instruct his boys to beat him very well. Yes,what is good for the goose is good for the gander, it will not be wise to beat other but forgive yourself after all it is said that we should love others as we love ourself,
“forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us”
Beating is bad,whether it is a husband to a wife,boyfriend to girlfriend,mother to child,teacher to student or any other. If a teacher flogs a student because he failed to do his assignment, what about when that teacher fails to create his lecture notes or does not mark all the test papers during mid-term and school reopens, what should happen to the teacher,it is either principal should flog him too or take him to police station or the closest army barrack for them to drill him.
Back to our talk.
After the husband beats his wife,inside of him,he is not happy though most men don’t show this ill feeling.
The beating is a wrong way of displaying his anger though he will act as if the beating is a rational decision.
Conclusion,women are as daft as men in handling their emotions,women are better at concealing their emotions from their environment while men are good at two things,logicalising their emotions and the use of violence as a vehicle of expression of emotions.
