Piece by Eleas Stanley
Debunking the myth surrounding males sexuality.
” All men are the same,always looking for ways to do chop and clean mouth”
This statement we have heard from many women who see men as goats with insatiable sexual drive.
?But if there any atom of truth in that saying.
The statement may seem like a truth especially when one is ignorant of male/female dynamics.
The truth of the matter is that the women who get laid are as guilty as the men who fired them, this mean that the women is not diffrent from the man that fired her.
? How is this so.
First,we need to understand that a man will not or cannot give a woman respect beyond the what amount of respect she ascribes to herself. When a man meets a woman,his logical antenna goes up and he scans if she is loose or decent. If his scan result shows that she is decent,he will respect her and try to be her friend,he does this because he wants to benefit from her wisdom which he unconsciously appreciate. If he is insecure or immature,he will back off from her if his scan result shows that she is a woman of virtue.
Every man appreciates a decent woman,even if the man is worse than the devil,he wants an Angel for a wife/friend.
But if his scan result tells him she is loose then he will think
“its not me that spoilt her so i can equaly chop and clean mouth,afterall am not the first”
Every man has his method of obtaining good scans result.
When a man scans and his result tells him,she is loose then he will spend hours in his mental liberary brainstorming how to get his cut.
In the past,this was very difficult but these days,some girls have become cheep so it does not take much effort on his path.
One method men apply is to talk about love to the girl ,maybe promising her heaven and earth(in the real sense he is promising according to what he thinks he can deliever but in actuality he fulfils according to what he can actually offer based on his capability). After he has browsed a few times,the tone of the music changes and he seeks a new bebe to conquare and add to his profile.
The challenge here is that immature men, being inept in the emotional department will try to run away from the emotions associated with her or run for their dear life when they sense that the bebe wamts a commited thing. Some men do not know how to handle emotions hence they like a “no long thing afar” or “friends with benefit”. Kind of thing but women are wired diffrently,they want to be adored and appreciated permanently,not used and dumped.
This is a serious challenge because sometimes men get stuck with the same lady they want to have nothing to do with,nothing apart from sex.. This happens because a women may come to love the man that wants to chop and clean mouth. At this point,she draws her weapon of warfare:seduction.
She does this because women are not very proficient in using the left side of the brain(the logical brain),they use more of the right side, this right side is emotional and does not use logic in argument.
Men fail to realise that in the battle between logic and emotion,emotions will always win so the best thing for a sensible man is not to ignite a war of power with a woman. This is the reason even the strongest men falls when a strong woman seduces them. When i say seduction, it goes deeper than sexual seduction, women have a way of getting result from their men. Sometimes i think this has to do with their power of repeatition or persistence which a man yields to just to please her.
If you are a man reading this and you doubt this power of women then i will refer you to history.
Julius Cease was one of the powerful soildier yet cleopatra used his head.
Ghengis khan was one the deadliest worriors but he died atop a woman.
Atilla the hun was a great soildier yet his bebe killed him.
Alexander the great died after a strange woman visited his chember (though history has it that he was poisoned by his cabinet,i think the woman was the agent that implimented it)
Achilles died a day after a woman visited him in bed.
In our modern times,one of the best generals, General Douglas Mac Authur nicknamed the American Ceaser, he was scared stiff of his mum and never dared her all his life.
If you scroll through hsitory,you will find more happenstance of this.
So women are powerful,every man must learn how to tap into the power of a woman so as to utilise it for the greatness of them both. Without a woman,a man is nothing. Beside every sucexful man is a woman,either his wife or his mother.
One reason that may account for this is that men seek strong women and when they love her,they drop their guards around her then she studies him and gets his weaknes which she uses against him.
Some people say when a man loves a woman,he becomes her strength and she becomes his weakness. This is partially true as it is a truth only when she does not love him back cos if she loves him,then she will never hurt him,for he is her baby.
If she loves him,she will be his strength in his weakness.
Back to our talk,
Men talk about love when they want sex from women, while women give sex when they want love from men.
This is a dengerous mixture.
If you know any ex player,check out the woman he ended up with, a total mismatch kind of marriage,this happens because she is the one that knows how to trap him into her nest. If you like your life,dont mess with a woman because yes they said he who finds a wife gets good stuff, and will be happy. My dear,if you marry the wrong woman you will be a good philospher cos you will reason everything under the sun trying to figure out what on earth lead you to her. Heaven may not help you much,it will only give you the fortitude to bear what will happen to you. Truth be said,if you marry the wrong woman…..you are finished.
Secondly, the women have a little blame on their path. This blame is caused through indecent exposure on their path. Women need to realise that men are turned on by what they see,this is unlike the women who are turned on by what they hear.
When a woman dresses with open bonnet and visible ripe pyramids,they activate a desire in any man that sees her. Eveb if she does it once and just that once he sees her will initiate a 3 months planning and strategising on how to chop this “sweet food”
He may suceed after a while,then walk away after eating. But the woman not knowing of his flight, will expect him to stay after he has taken so much pain to win her over.
A solution here may be that women should cover their body properly so men who see them do not get charged up.
Thirdly, Women seem to be impatient at times,if you get a girl and tell her you want the relationship to be non sexual for some months and all that plenty plenty story,she may agree in the beginning but after a short while,she starts thinking something is wrong with you or that you dont love her. From then all her actions will be geared towords making it happen. First is that yoo will observe one funny kind of laughter from her friends,she will start disrespecting you or picking quarrels with every little thing or one rudeboy out there will start firing her or she will outrightly walk away from you.
Experience has shown that most men who tried to practise non sexual relationships ended this way,it may also help us if we realise that girls begin their sexual life earlier than boys,infact most boys were introduced to sex by their seemingly innocent female friends who sometimes are younger than them, even me,my first sexual experience was by a girl much younger than i was and throughout she was the guide and instructor . So as much as the men are guilty,the women are guilty as well.
Remember,this does not imply that there are not girls who can practise non sexual relationship,there are there but very few,fewer than one in a million.
Another truth is that an average woman wants sex 5 times more than a man but she wants it from the right man who will love her and cherish her soul. Sadly, these days economic need leaves no room for such luxury like love.
Why would you be telling her stories that touch the heart when a goat out there is very willing pay her bills just to taste her sweet food. She has needs,you dont have money,you are talking stories,another guy lacks story but is filled with fun, bear, chicken, clubbing and all that. You dont stand a chance na.
Nobody is innocent of anything,the women are as bad as the men.
In the first place, what did he tell you that made you open your leg for him even when you have seen that he barely has a future. I say “barely have a future” cos most men who sleep with diffrent women carelessly have not started building their future seriously. Real men understand the value of love and will cherish and guide a woman into building her strength. This does not mean the relationship will be non-sexual,it only means he will not jump from girl to girl in search of vanity.
A chain is as week as its weakest link,sex is the weak link in every man,those who have a deep understanding start work on themself early and build strength in that department,a strength that prevents them from mis-using girls.
So yes all men are the same but are the women innocent……No they are not, eagles and chicken dont associate, neither do lions and monkeys move together. Goats only Associate with itchy legs, remember the old saying,birds of a feather flock.
When a woman has integrity,immature girl avoid her cos she is a hazard to them only mature guys go close and the truelly mature will not seek the sweet food as a visitor,he will be a good houseowner so as to enjoy his legitmaate right.
I rest my case.