Whoever reads portrait paintings, portraits of Muslim rulers from the Middle Ages, will notice a prevailing pattern, which is to show the ruler holding a rose with his delicate, delicate fingertips, which are like the sensitive fingers of poets and artists, with an emotional poetic streak in body language, facial expressions, and a dreamy look, although he was famous for his wars and cruelty, but he He chooses to draw this emotional and poetic portrait of him instead of being drawn with his sword and military equipment. Muslim princes in the Middle Ages were also famous for their romantic and emotional poetry, so that it became an iconic model for the prince to be an emotional poet and he is proud of showing his emotional extent to the point of deriving his title from his wife’s name, such as Al-Mu’tamid Ibn Abbad. Naming his new capital in the name of his wife, such as the Andalusian city of Zahra, and building a monument that immortalizes his wife, such as the “Taj Mahal” in India. Emotional, and taught them that the eye that tears is a virtue while the one that does not shed tears is a vice that is sought refuge from, and the Prophet was the first Arab man to cry publicly when he was affected emotionally, and taught them public emotional expression with the wife and children, and directed them because if a man loves someone, he must tell him that he loves him, so the model changed Masculinity among the Arabs because of the influence of the emotional personality of the Prophet, and therefore the first century of Islam witnessed the famous epic Arab love stories such as Majnun Laila and Jamil Buthaina, all of which were in the heart of the Arabian Peninsula. An anti-spiritual vice, but after the first century this culture died until the Middle Ages when the new culture of urbanization spread and men wanted to distinguish themselves as civilized by showing disdain for uncivilized savages, so emotionality became the dividing line between civilization and barbarism, so Muslim rulers were keen to That personal drawings show them in a poetic and emotional capacity to demonstrate their civility, and this difference still extends to our current era, where the extent of civilized society can be distinguished by the behavior of men in it towards emotionality; In the most civilized and developed societies, men compete by showing emotional consideration, which indicates their emotional sensitivity to the other, while in less civilized societies, men boast of barbaric anti-emotional antics, whether in their personal behavior and domestic violence or in public policies as well as policies that are hostile to women and oppress them, such as preventing education, work, freedom to leave the house and use Violence to force them to wear the traditional dress, beat them and torture them to death for it, as happens in some Islamic countries, although in Islam there is no punishment for not wearing the veil, while the sanctity of beating, torturing and killing a person is greater with God than the sanctity of the Kaaba, as the Prophet said correctly, where is the implementation of the prophetic commandment to be kind with bottles Which women have likened them to glass? Even in the same society, it is possible to distinguish the backgrounds of men, even if they are in the same shape and wear the same brands, from their attitude towards passion; Those who belong to the less well-to-do classes (low-class) consider that proving themselves and their virility is by arrogance and contempt for emotion, as a negative stigma that stigmatizes women and strips them of human capacity because of it. Therefore, they suppress passion with their children, while men from the luxurious and velvety “high-class” classes view these as Barbarians and their style is barbaric, and they pride themselves on showing and appreciating emotionality, whether in women or men, especially with recent studies on the importance of “emotional intelligence” in the field of self-development and considering it one of the basic faculties of a successful and leadership personality.
Bushra Faisal Sibai